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Relationship Therapy is a space to improve your relationship(s) with tools that’ll last you a lifetime. I see relationships as a skillset that many assume we should just know. From studying relationship theory, I was surprised myself how much goes into it that I’d missed in my own life! I’ll help guide you together from distress to secure bonding. Relationships don’t have to feel like a battlefield. They can become your safe haven to give you strength and self-confidence to tackle your life ambitions, nurture you when you’re vulnerable, and bring a little joy to the daily of life.
Whether you’re in a culturally supported relationship style or breaking down norms to find the style that works for you or already founded in an alternative relationship style, relationship therapy can help you improve communication and emotional skills so together you can improve the functioning of your system.
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"I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship." ~Brene Brown
You may benefit from relationship therapy if…
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arguments too often end in tears, yelling matches, or disconnection
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you have the same cyclical conversation about a certain topic
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the relationship structure is changing or is new for someone(s)
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you too often feel bored or stagnant
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some part of you just can’t quite relax about the commitment
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you’re not satisfied with your sex life
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you long to feel closer or fully seen + accepted
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there’s a lack of skill of attuning emotionally
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you feel lost about what to do when your partner is struggling
Success with relationship therapy can feel like…
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being able to soothe each other quickly
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a heightened sense of “seeing” each other, rather than projecting an image
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using knowledge of each other’s attachment styles and struggles to foster supportive + safe connection
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an ease in difficult conversations
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better boundary navigation
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clarity about what you want, why, and how to get there
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the physical, emotional, or spiritual intimacy you long for
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a solid foundation on which to build a life together
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breaking unwanted generational patterns
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resiliency around break ups
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a warm heart and grounded soul
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joy and playfulness
Common modalities used: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Psychobiological Approach to Couple’s Therapy (PACT), Gottman Method, mindfulness, and an integration of ethical non-monogamy and PolySecure theory.