Sex, Desire, + Authenticity

Sexuality isn’t something you’re supposed to have figured out.

Our sexuality is shaped by so much more than attraction. It is influenced by our nervous systems, attachment histories, relationships, bodies, identities, culture, family messages, religion, trauma, health, and the countless experiences that have taught us what feels safe, pleasurable, shameful, or off-limits. It’s no wonder so many people feel confused, disconnected, or alone when it comes to sex.

Whether you’re navigating questions about desire, intimacy, pleasure, communication, identity, or healing after painful experiences, therapy offers a place to explore your sexuality with curiosity instead of judgment.

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There isn’t one “right” way to experience sexuality.

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Throughout our lives, we’re given messages about who we should be sexually.

 How much desire we should have.
How often we should have sex.
What kind of relationship we should want.
What fantasies are acceptable.
What makes someone “good” at sex.

Many of these messages come from culture, family, religion, partners, or social expectations. Sometimes they help us. Often they leave us feeling ashamed, inadequate, or disconnected from ourselves. Rather than telling you what your sexuality should look like, my role is to help you become curious about what feels authentic, consensual, life-giving, and aligned for you.

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Therapy may help if you’re experiencing…

• Low or changing desire

• Differences in desire within a relationship

• Difficulty feeling emotionally or physically intimate

• Shame, anxiety, or fear around sex

• Healing after sexual trauma or unwanted experiences

• Questions about sexual identity or sexual values

• Body image concerns that affect intimacy

• Difficulty communicating about sex with a partner

• Feeling disconnected from pleasure, playfulness, or your body

• Wanting a more intentional and fulfilling intimate life

Whether you’re single, dating, partnered, married, or exploring a relationship structure that falls outside traditional expectations, these conversations are welcome here.

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Sex is relational.

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Even when we’re talking about our own bodies or desires, sexuality doesn’t exist in isolation. Our earliest relationships shape how safe it feels to want, to receive, to express boundaries, to ask for what we need, and to be fully seen by another person. That’s why our work often extends beyond sex itself. We’ll explore the attachment patterns, emotional experiences, nervous system responses, and relational dynamics that influence intimacy. As these patterns become more understood and embodied, many people find that their capacity for connection, pleasure, and authenticity begins to grow naturally.

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For individuals and couples

Sometimes the work is deeply personal, and sometimes it’s deeply relational. You may be an individual wanting to reconnect with your body after trauma, understand your desires, or untangle years of shame. Or you may be a couple navigating mismatched desires, changing bodies, the transition into parenthood, healing after betrayal, opening your relationship, or simply longing to feel close again after life has pulled you apart. Therapy isn’t about deciding what your relationship or sex life should look like. Here, it’s about creating enough safety, honesty, and curiosity to discover what feels true for the people involved.

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My approach

I approach sexuality with warmth, openness, and deep respect for each person’s unique values and lived experience. Together we’ll slow down the pressure to “perform” or “fix” anything. We’ll explore the stories you’ve inherited, the experiences that have shaped you, and the relationship you have with your own body, desire, and intimacy. My hope isn’t that you leave therapy with someone else’s definition of a healthy sex life. It’s that you develop a relationship with your sexuality that feels more authentic, more compassionate, and more fully your own.

Like every meaningful relationship, sexuality is something we continue discovering throughout our lives.