Resources
Resources for deeper exploration
A collection of books, podcasts, practices, and other resources that have influenced my work and that I often recommend for continued exploration.
Sex, Desire & Authenticity BOOKS * Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections — Emily Nagoski * Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life — Emily Nagoski * The Come as You Are Workbook: A Practical Guide to the Science of Sex — Emily Nagoski * Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire — Lori A. Brotto * Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma — Staci Haines * The Men on My Couch: True Stories of Sex, Love, and Psychotherapy — Brandy Engler with David Rensin * The Women on My Couch: Stories of Sex, Love, and Psychotherapy — Brandy Engler * Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century — Barbara Carrellas * Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers — Peggy J. Kleinplatz & A. Dana Ménard * Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good — adrienne maree brown * Queer Sex: A Trans and Non-Binary Guide to Intimacy, Pleasure and Relationships — Juno Roche * The New Male Sexuality — Bernie Zilbergeld PODCASTS * Sexology — Dr. Nazanin Moali * Sex Love Psychedelics — Dr. Cat Meyer * Layla Martin’s podcast INTERACTIVE RESOURCES * Honest X — intimacy/sex conversation card game by The Skin Deep * OMGYES — interactive, research-informed education about sexual pleasure, with videos, demonstrations, animations, and practical techniques.
Mindfulness & Eastern Spirituality BOOKS A Million Thoughts Om Swami The Pocket Guide to Fearlessness Pema Chödrön The Courage to Be Present: Buddhism, Psychotherapy, and the Awakening of Natural Wisdom Karen Kissel Wegela Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom Rick Hanson with Richard Mendius When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times Pema Chödrön Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm Thích Nhất Hạnh The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation Thích Nhất Hạnh No Mud, No Lotus: The Art of Transforming Suffering Thích Nhất Hạnh The Complete Guide to Chakras Ambika Wauters Eastern Body, Western Mind: Psychology and the Chakra System as a Path to the Self Anodea Judith
Relationships, Attachment & Intimacy BOOKS The Science of Love: How Understanding Your Brain’s Wiring Can Help Rekindle Your Relationship — Sue Johnson Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love — Sue Johnson Hold Me Tight Workbook: A Couple’s Guide for a Lifetime of Love — Sue Johnson Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life — Marshall B. Rosenberg Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship — Stan Tatkin Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After — Katherine Woodward Thomas Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence — Esther Perel Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage — Elizabeth Gilbert All the Way to the River: Love, Loss, and Liberation — Elizabeth Gilbert CONSENSUAL NON-MONOGAMY Books Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships — Kate Loree Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy — Jessica Fern The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships — Jessica Fern Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships — Jessica Fern & David Cooley The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships — Kathy Labriola How to Survive in a Throuple: Navigating Love, Communication, and Harmony in a Three-Partner Relationship — Camp Throuple Podcasts & Online Resources * Multiamory — podcast & website * Camp Throuple — podcast & Instagram * @decolonizing.love — Instagram * @chillpolyamory — Instagram BETRAYAL & RELATIONSHIP REPAIR The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity — Esther Perel Rebuilding Trust: Guided Therapy Techniques and Activities to Restore Love, Trust, and Intimacy in Your Relationship — Morgan Johnson When You’re the One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need to Know — Tammy Nelson
Women & Embodiment BOOKS Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Power Kasia Urbaniak Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger Soraya Chemaly Wild Feminine: Finding Power, Spirit & Joy in the Female Body Tami Lynn Kent Moon Time: Harness the Ever-Changing Energy of Your Menstrual Cycle Lucy H. Pearce Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance Kelly McDaniel Psychedelic Mysteries of the Feminine: Creativity, Ecstasy, and Healing Maria Papaspyrou, Chiara Baldini & David Luke, editors Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype Clarissa Pinkola Estés All About Love: New Visions bell hooks
Trauma, Somatics & the Nervous System BOOKS Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma — Peter A. Levine An Autobiography of Trauma: A Healing Journey — Peter A. Levine My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies — Resmaa Menakem Decolonizing Therapy: Oppression, Historical Trauma, and Politicizing Your Practice — Jennifer Mullan It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle — Mark Wolynn What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma — Stephanie Foo No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model — Richard C. Schwartz When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress — Gabor Maté Healing Sexual Trauma Workbook: Somatic Skills to Help You Feel Safe in Your Body, Create Boundaries, and Live with Resilience — Erika Shershun, LMFT Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma — Staci Haines Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle — Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski PODCASTS Being Well — Forrest Hanson & Dr. Rick Hanson
Local & Complementary Resources SEXUALITY & SURVIVOR SUPPORT Sexploratorium Inclusive, science-based sex education, workshops, events, and an educational sex museum. WINGS Foundation Support, resources, and therapist-facilitated groups for adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. The Blue Bench Sexual assault survivor support, advocacy, therapy, groups, and crisis resources. ACUPUNCTURE & AYURVEDA Denver Community Acupuncture Affordable community acupuncture, herbal medicine, and holistic health services. Alandi Ashram Ayurvedic consultations, treatments, herbal medicine, education, and spiritual practice. Therapeutic Ayurveda Center Ayurvedic consultations, traditional therapies, therapeutic massage, and private yoga. HERBALISM & PLANT MEDICINE Balanced Root Apothecary Herbal apothecary offering organic herbs, herbal remedies, education, and personalized herbal support. Plant Magic Cafe Plant-medicine community hub offering education, events, integration groups, and community gatherings.
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